People with a secure attachment style tend to feel comfortable with intimacy and independence.

They trust others, communicate openly, and can balance closeness with personal boundaries.

Securely attached individuals are often able to navigate conflict constructively and maintain satisfying relationships.

Common traits:

• Comfort with closeness and independence

• Healthy communication skills

• Trust in self and others

Anxious attachment often develops when care in early life was inconsistent—sometimes warm and responsive, other times unavailable.

Adults with this style may crave closeness but fear abandonment, leading to heightened sensitivity to relationship changes.

Common traits:

• Strong need for reassurance

• Worry about being rejected or unloved

• Tendency to overanalyze others’ words or actions

Avoidant attachment often stems from early experiences where needs for comfort were not met. T

hese individuals may value independence so strongly that they avoid deep emotional closeness, sometimes appearing distant or self-reliant to the point of isolation.

Common traits:

• Discomfort with too much closeness

• Preference for self-sufficiency

• Difficulty sharing vulnerable emotions

Disorganised (or fearful-avoidant) attachment can develop when early relationships were a source of both comfort and fear.

These individuals may long for closeness but also fear it, creating a push-pull dynamic in relationships.

Common traits:

• Conflicting desires for intimacy and distance

• Difficulty trusting others

• Emotional highs and lows in relationships